How Can I Find a Massage Therapist I’ll Like?



All of my friends are raving about on-demand massage therapy, and how they can now get a massage virtually any time they want at the location of their choosing. This sounds great to me, but I’m worried about being able to relax if I’m not comfortable with the massage therapist. I’m pretty picky about who I trust and have a hard time with strangers. How can I find a massage therapist I’ll like?


Massage therapists are fairly diverse, so in theory it shouldn’t be too much of a problem to find one you trust and feel comfortable around. Generally, most massage therapists are women in their 30s or 40s, according to the American Massage Therapy Association.[1] Rely on vetting processes, and look for therapists who have several years of experience and belong to a professional association.

Finding The “Right” Massage Therapist

The key to finding a massage therapist you like is to have a good understanding of what types of massages you like and what you want out of massage therapy, and then be able to communicate that.[2] As with any relationship, communication is of utmost importance. Massage therapists can adapt to your needs, but they won’t know to do so unless you tell them what your needs are.

Talk to the massage therapist before your first session, and be prepared to ask them lots of questions. Find out what types of massage techniques they practice. Be honest with the therapist about your health and medical history, and make sure you tell them if you are currently on any medications or receiving treatment for any chronic conditions. Certain massage techniques may impact the way your body processes various drugs or supplements, and can enhance the effects of some treatments.[3]

You Can Find A Great Massage Therapist But I Can Take Time

Be open about your comfort level, both before and during your session. While many people disrobe completely for massage therapy, there’s no requirement for you to do so. If you do, the massage therapist will drape your body so that your private parts (and any other part of your body you specify) remain covered throughout your treatment. You also want to be open about how the treatment feels. If something hurts or causes you discomfort, let your therapist know so they can adjust their technique accordingly.

You may hit it off with the first massage therapist you work with, but don’t count on it. Be ready to try several massage therapists before you decide on the right one for you, and expect to shop around. Once you find someone you like, schedule between 3 and 5 sessions with them to be sure. If you don’t notice any results from the treatment after 3 to 5 sessions, discuss it with your massage therapist – it may be time for you to move on and find someone else.[4]


[1] American Massage Therapy Association: “Massage Therapy Industry Fact Sheet”

[2] Pain Science: “How to Find a Good Massage Therapist”

[3] University of Minnesota Earl E. Bakken Center for Spirituality and Healing: “What Can I Expect in a First Massage Therapy Visit?”

[4] Pain Science: “How to Find a Good Massage Therapist”

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